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Anyone can use guerilla dating tactics' in everday dating battles
By Melissa Karren

Guerilla dating tactics are aggressive techniques that can be learned and implemented in everyday life, according to Mary Gardner, host of "Performing Arts Weekly."

"We spend so much time of our lives preparing for our careers --- 15,000 hours," Gardner said. "We spend that much time for our careers, but do we spend that much time preparing for the most important choice of our lives?"

Gardner said guerilla dating helps shy people come out of their shells and helps extroverts attract more people to their lives.

Before going to battle, Gardner said people have to prepare.

Preparation starts with the individual.

The image people choose to portray through their choice of clothes, manners, and belief system says a lot about them to to other people.

"In high school, I didn't know that this was important," Gardner said. "I had to learn to be treated like a queen, I had to act like one."

Besides image, Gardner said you need to learn how to be successful with meeting people.

Her advice: learn to be effective at small talk.

"Small talk serves a purpose," she said, "If you can be comfortable with small talk, then you're ahead in dating."

Small talk is a good way to know if you want to continue the conversation.

Gardner told the near-capacity crowd in the Shephard Union Building ballroom to ask questions and learn to listen to people with interest.

"Make other people feel good," Gardner said.

Another useful tool to consider is flirting. Gardner said there are two kinds: come-on flirting and flirting with people.

She said come-on flirting is the way people let others know they are physically attracted to a person.

Flirting with people is taking time to get to know another person and then getting them to talk about themselves.

The final weapons for guerilla dating are learning to be one's self and being body confident.

"Don't plan your life around a person," Gardner said. "Find out what makes you happy."

She also said to take time ti find out what makes other people tick.

"Everyone has something inside of them that makes the beautiful," Gardner said.

A way to be body confident is to learn how to dance. Gardner said practice writing your name in cursive with your buttocks.

"If you are shy, this will improve your social life," she said.

She reminded the audience when dating, get to know all kinds of people, be creative and have fun.

She said dating is the time to get to know who people are as individuals and what makes them truly happy.

She said lust is what you can get or want from another person. Love is what you can give another person.

Gardner quoted Nelson Mandela: "When we let our own light shine, we allow others to do the same."

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